http://www.CoachNorth.com/ --- What to Do When He Says He Isn't Ready for a Relationship
So you’ve met this guy and you can’t help but think that he may be “the one.” The only problem is he says he’s not ready for a relationship. What should you do?
Hey ladies, Amy North here, welcome to my channel. For those of you who don’t know me I’m a relationship coach from Vancouver, BC and author of the Devotion System, a program I’ve designed to help women find and lock down the love they want and deserve.
Now today I want to talk about something that I get asked often, and that’s what to do when the guy you’re into isn’t ready to commit. Unfortunately this happens more than you may imagine, which is why knowing how to deal with this kind of situation is so important. When done properly you can not only make him ready for a relationship, but it can strengthen your bond to boot!
So, how can you do it?
Here’s the thing. Most times when a guy says he’s not ready for a relationship it’s because he’s not wanting to give up his single lifestyle. Of course there are situations where his reasoning seems more justified, like if he has a busy schedule that get in the way, or if he still isn’t completely over his previous relationship, but reasons aside, if he says he’s not ready for a relationship then you’re going to need to change his mind.
Of course, no amount of begging or pleading is going to work here because it’ll make you look desperate and frankly, pathetic, and no negative attitude or harsh words will want to make him want to commit to you either. I mean, do you blame him?
It’s also worth mentioning that trying to talk him into wanting to be in a relationship with you isn’t a wise move either. If you do, he’ll feel like he’s being tricked or sold on the idea. Once he feels this way he’ll make a run for it.
What will work though is if you sympathize with him. That said, you’re going to want to do so with poise, because really you shouldn’t make this a pity party for him. If you do he’ll feel his reasons for not wanting a relationship are legitimate.
Instead, you’re going to want to agree with him, and almost encourage that he backs away from having a relationship with you at this time. For example, if your guy says he’s not ready for a relationship then you can say something like this:
“It seems like you need to be on your own for a while to figure out what you want. I just want you to be happy, so if you need to be alone I understand. I hope I’m still here when you are ready, but until then I need to be with someone who is 100% certain that they want to be with me.”
This is the kind of response that will work wonders for making him ready to commit to a relationship for a couple reasons.
First, he’ll probably be surprised that you’re cool with him not being ready, and will love that you are being so agreeable and kind. The fact that you care about his happiness will speak volumes and this alone will make him realize that he’s found someone special.
Second, encouraging him to take time for himself will make him question if it’s even a good idea. I mean, if you’re making it seem like yeah, he should be alone, then that idea isn’t going to be as attractive to him anymore. In fact, he’ll probably quickly realize that this isn’t want he wants. At the same time you mentioning that this may be a good idea does the opposite of what trying to sell yourself to him does. This means he’ll get the impression that you’re being genuine and not trying to manipulate him. Again, he’ll feel like you care about his wants and needs.
And lastly, letting him know that you won’t wait around for him, and that you want to be with someone who absolutely wants to be with you too, that shows that you love and respect yourself too much to settle for less. This will make him realize that unless he scoops you up, someone else will, which believe me, is always an easy way to win a man over.
If you’re looking to learn some other helpful phrases that you can use to win any man over then visit my site, www.coachnorth.com and watch the free video presentation. There you’ll learn all about my devotion sequences, which are sets of words I’ve designed specifically to make men wild with desire for you. So believe me, you don’t want to miss out on these.
Well that just about does it for this video, thanks so much for watching. I hope that you found what you learned here helpful, and if so then you can show your support by subscribing to my channel and checking out my other dating advice videos. After all, it’s you guys who allow me to keep coming out with new content for you.
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