Is it a bad idea to date a younger man? Should you date a younger man? #askRenee
Dating a younger man because you are an older woman is not a bad thing! Here are my tips to know if it is a bad idea to date a younger man.
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Let's talk dating a younger man:
We all know that not all relationships are about being with someone of the same age group. In fact some of the most successful ones throughout history and even presently have had significant age gaps.
But what are the expectations and reality of dating a younger man? Is it a bad idea to date a younger man ? Should you date a younger man?
Here are my tips :
1) Age isn't always a measure for compatibility but it can affect whether or not you want the same things and are on the same page
2) Men and women emotionally mature at different ages - so therefore you may react and relate to situations differently causing lack of unity.
3) Are you ready to commit to someone who may be at a different stage of life ? - Talk about your wants and needs in regards to settling down or family.
4) Younger men will have different energy and hormonal levels which can actually be a good thing!
There is nothing wrong with dating a younger man and it's a stigma that needs to be broken. As long as you both feel fulfilled then do what works for you both.
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I dont mind age gaps but i dont like the whole mid life crisis thing. You know dating young people because you are past your prime and feel bad. I think 10 years 8s the most. Women in their 40s/50s shouldnt be talking to 18-24 years olds.
Question please help me.. In my life I have never dated a girl but the I saw her I fell in love because of her kindness and the beauty unexpectedly I didn't know that she's elder than me for 2 years. Still we chat as friends but I'm really scared to propose her whether she will reject me. Cuz she doesn't know my age she keeping asking me the age I was refusing by changing the subject but if she rejects I'm a person who cannot bare the sadness cuz I'm really dying for her. Can you please advise me about it. I love her alot.
Ok so you are infatuated with her , you aren't involve because you haven't gotten to know her that well. Bring value to her and focus on being confident , making her feel safe and at ease and that should make her warm to you.
Love for me at its best I'm 52 my heart is 35 a twenty yr gap we have a lot in common * we can talk about anything something u mention in yo viedo about communication which I to think is important above anything I've been with my heart only for 2yrs & counting so we still fresh but I'm hoping to with this heart of mine
maybe become his wife but for now we have to take one day at a time but I thank u for this viedo it was helpful !!!
First take a moment and ask around, "Why aren't you younger folk going for one another instead?" If you hear output that suggests something in the department of being mutually selfish, irresponsible, lazy, and entitled - Now, what do you think is going to happen if these "young-uns" get their claws on you? Oh, I'm sure the emotional thrill (and even the sexual experiences) with a "daring young whatever" might be exciting, ditto memorable, but when you have absolutely no more to offer, somebody's definitely getting tossed under the bus, and it sure isn't THEM!
I’m currently dating this guy he’s 1 grade smaller than me. He’s an amazing person only problem is he told me he was the same age as me but only a few months younger..I recently found out when we where on the phone that his brother told him he was a year younger and I heard. So we are 1 year and a few months apart. I’m so stressed out
There's a boy who is 4 years younger than me said he liked me , well he's cute so I like him but my graduation exam is coming soon and I'll study in the university , and he lives in my school so if we date we won't have much time together , now I'm confused and don't know what to do :((((
+Bich Pham It's crazy. I grew up in a area where there were many single divorced women and they were looking for fun with young guys. It's crazy how easily they would flirt with you. I never planned being with a older woman espeically marrying one. Me and my wife hit it too fast and rushed into the marriage. I mean we did get married in a chapel like those vegas type where you can get married on the spot with a few hundred to pay. I guess I didn't realise how things changed within weeks in our marriage.
+Bich Pham with my wife she looks good for her age at 41 for a woman who just had four kids within three years and she has a plus size type body. I'll be 31 soon and she still looks like my age. If people don't know us they'll think I'm older because I shave my head. I've been with few older women since I left school at 16. I haven't been with a woman my age since my last girlfriend at school. I've been with older women like 20 years older. Oldest I was with was 50 years old.
Question. Pleaseee help. I like this guy and we are both 15 but I turn 16 first.. I know that Its not a big deal but guys mature slower so do you think that we have a chance at a long term relationship if we get together or would he end up changing as he goes through puberty?
Everybody is always changing and evolving , and at that age it's hard to predict a long term relationship when you both are young and have a lot to go and grow through. I would take it slowly and get to know his character ...don't be in a rush to have a commitment from someone you are still getting to know
+Lucie 2 years is nothing compared. Unless it was back in school. I dated a girl 3 years older then me when I was in school. My wife is 11 years older then me and people make it like she's 20 years older.
+Bich Pham 4 years isn't as bad. My wife is 11 years older and it don't seem that bad but the problem is she use to be my teacher back in school so people who know us easily criticises our age gap just because she use to be my teacher that makes her like way older then 11 years. Thank god we're moving away from this area. Hopefully our new surroundings no one will judge.
I’m 27 and my best friend was an older woman of 35 years, she broke my heart when she rejected me for an older man that’s 20 years her senior. What’s odd is that I was always attracted to women that are younger than me but this older woman meant the whole world to me. Now she’s going to have kids with him soon and it was painful to hear that, I had no choice but to cut her off from my life. She’s been wondering what’s going on with me but I think it’s best to move on and find a younger woman or perhaps another older woman.
@Renee Slansky #Question Do you think it is okay for a 31-year-old guy to date 16-year-old girl? I wanted to date that kind of hottie 2 years ago and she told me that she is too young for me and go to date women my age. Then I thought whether or not I should date younger women, and if they are 10+ or 15+ years younger most of the time the emotional maturity level is very different.
Then I asked many guys, kind of my mentors and they suggested that it is fine as long as the girl is mature enough to date older guys. And that is my response now: You are right! You probably couldn’t handle my experience level? haha
So what are your thoughts on this subject and when are you coming to Plovdiv, Bulgaria to teach you how to light your video sets? Lol
I think that that sort of age gap probably isn't the healthiest , she's still a teenager and going through school ... if she was 19 or 20 it would be a different story , but at such a young age it almost doesn't seem appropriate ...IMO
i am dating a 30-year old, and am close to 60. He pursued me and we completely enjoy each others company and our communication continues to push us together. We are learning about ourselves and each other. It is wonderful. Even if we don't marry, which is a distant thought, we are very good friends, and were even before we dated. Even my children are saying it is up to each person to find the person they are happy with. Age makes no difference, it is like Bich says...it is compatability that is the most important.
Sorry for late comment Because I hear this video so seriously and I say everyone forget the little age Gap. If someone loves u so much so u accept it. I lost this chance but u all have a chance all the best!!!!
Hi I have a question I'm going to be 62 this month I have a lot of women that want to go out with me that are from there 20s to there 30s I know that there's a big age difference they tell me age is just a number well and I find that most of them have had a relationship with guys close to their age and they cheated on them so is it really a good idea to date someone so young they all want kids so they want to have sex well I'm not sure about marring someone so young thinking about what other people will think I want to meet some of them but to tell you the truth it's a little scary it will feel like dating my daughter
Well I talked it over with my girlfriend and she was really pissed about what you said I won't repeat it but we are in love and nothing will change that and I have no problem with having kids so we are going to go for it anyway thanks for the advice
I think you have to ask yourself do you feel compatible with women who are 30+ years younger than you? Chances are the energy levels will be different and they will want to have children eventually or at least know that is an option . If you are attracted to younger women why not try someone in her 40's and 50's?
Renee you're adorable. Ok.You have made valid points and they all make sense. I guess the minds and body chemistries have to match. I guess It's the same with same -age couples. Am I wrong in saying that at the end of a day if love is true and selfless the hearts win the race. And life is stranger than fiction. It's a puzzles that puzzles itself. Can never know how it can get Cupid to play magic. But I see a risk of the younger woman or man getting pulled out by their age groups. Example - a younger woman might say , "WTH, he deserves me and not that older woman". And seduction starts. And the other way round. I mean other jealous younger energies will try to grab. Reminds me of a Dolly Parton song 'Jolene'.
" Don't take away my man just because you can'. But if love is strong...
Child marriages are common:
On a recent day, eight community elders sat in a [refugee] camp, some chewing khat, the narcotic leaf favored by most Yemeni men. Seven have married off their girls this year.
Even Salim, the elder who worked at the charity, is preparing to marry off his two daughters, ages 13 and 14. "I want to feel secure of their futures, if only for economic reasons," he said.
Mohammad Ali al-Ansi married off his two girls, ages 13 and 14, in April. "My heart is bleeding inside, but I was forced to do this," he said. "I have no job. Its difficult for me to feed my 10 children." He received $1,600 in dowry for each of his girls, he said. But after paying for their weddings and meeting other debts, the money has nearly run out. "If things get worse, theres no doubt Ill marry off my 12-year-old daughter," Ansi said.
More on Ansis 14-year-old daughter Fatma, married to 21-year-old Zaid:
Fatma spent her day cooking and washing clothes for her in-laws. When asked the name of her husbands family, Fatma didnt know it. She remembers her father telling her and her sister, Amal, that the family needed money. She remembers that Amal was in tears because her new husband was taking her to another region. The two sisters have not seen each other since their weddings.
"I am too young to be married," Fatma said. "I want to study. I want to learn how to write. I have sacrificed for my family," she continued, her voice dropping to a whisper.
Minutes later, her husband arrived at the tent, and Fatma went silent. He said Fatma was "at a good age to marry." When asked if she could attend school, he shook his head no. "Shes a little too old for school," he said.
Female sexual freedom among the Tuareg : Flora Drury has written up the sex habits of the Saharas Muslim Tuareg people based on the work by Henrietta Butler. Some excerpts:
Their men became known as the blue men of the Sahara because the dye from their distinctive indigo scarves rub off onto their faces giving them a mysterious air. The Tuareg evoke images of a long forgotten and romantic age.