There is a lot of information available on the internet regarding narcissistic abuse, narcissistic abuse victim syndrome, healing Cptsd due to emotional abuse and overcoming the abuse inflicted by narcissistic parents; however, having someone guide and mentor you on your healing journey can be so helpful. If you feel you can benefit from inviting someone on your healing journey, please check out these links for face to face coaching and/or phone coaching: https://payhip.com/b/whkV https://payhip.com/b/uGNB For those interested in an interactive self-help journal, here is the link for the PDF entitled I Miss Me and I Want Me Back https://payhip.com/b/HD4v Michele is someone that has truly been there; after surviving 31 years of narcissistic abuse by family members and significant others, she now dedicates her time and energy toward helping others as a Trauma Recovery Coach and soon to be a Certified Kinesiology Practitioner to help others that are still on their road to recovery. For those that are going to court against a narcissist, the PDF entitled When The Devils The Defendant has been a helpful tool for thousands- https://payhip.com/b/Kl21
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A male target of narcissistic abuse asked me if I would be interested in ghost writing his memoir and after hearing his story I was hooked. It’s one thing to hear about what narcissistic abuse is, to learn about triangulation, blame shifting, projection, narcissistic supply, gaslighting and so many other terms and manipulation tactics we come to learn about on our journey to heal from narcissistic abuse. But it’s another story to delve into the life of someone trapped in a trauma bond by a female histrionic narcissist. This memoir, written in novel form, takes you on the roller coaster ride of highs and lows that are typical in emotionally abusive relationships.
Here is a brief description of the book, a link is found below.
This memoir opens the door to what my life was like dating a female histrionic narcissist. The beginning of the relationship was surreal - if ever I had fantasized about what the perfect girl would be - it paled in comparison to what Angel was truly like and how she enhanced my life. If I were to compare her to anyone I had ever dated - it would not be fair; it would be like comparing a painting done with finger paints hanging on a refrigerator door, held up with a magnet, to Michelangelo's art scenes from Genesis painted on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel in Rome.
The feeling Angel gave was a perfect purity of manifested perfection. I quite literally could not imagen a girl more totally perfect, my imagination was stretched just to take in the reality of her. She took me in every way she possibly could to the heights beyond the tops of Mt. Everest in sensual and hedonistic pleasure.
She brought me to the edge of the stratosphere where the air is so thin you have to wear a space suit - but the view - the view is all humanity stretched out before you and you can see the curvature of the earth and the blackness of space.
And then she dropped me.
While reading this story there are no definitions spelled out as to narcissistic abuse, nor what histrionics are like, rather a picture is painted before your eyes. You will see the idealization phase, notice the cycle of highs and lows that are signature to emotionally abusive relationships, you will watch in horror as the trauma bonds can cause a person to make the worst, self-destructive decisions possible.
I'm inviting you to bear witness to my journey. What looked so innocent and enticing quickly turned into a covert poison that cost me a million-dollar business, my health, provoked a suicide attempt and left me homeless and suffering brain damage. This is my story. It's not meant to entice sympathy, rather it's a wake- up call for anyone that is in a relationship with someone narcissistic, sociopathic, histrionic or a cocktail of mixed cluster b disorders. https://payhip.com/b/a31b
We never had mutual friends. He always told me he had no friends, just drug dealers and whores...what he did do was try to turn me into one of them, which didn’t work. After the discard is when I found out how many friends he really had and sent them after me to stalk and abuse me for years...
From my experience the 1st type narcissist just escalates the smear campaign and openly targets you. The best is to just walk away; get out of the environment BEFORE your own thought patterns turn negative.
Narcs love to play the victim and will twist every story of anything that's happened in order to play the holy, sacred martyr hanging upon a cross whose been done oh so wrong by you. They'll look for any excuse (no matter how tiny) in order to use it as a launchpad to show their butt over it. Then they like to promote themselves as a superior person "who would never act that way or treat someone like you treated them!" Everything about them is fake, phony and plastic as well as twisted and warped.
The one I knew was always acting the part of the disrespected, mistreated angel who had every right to be offended by something I did and would then sulk worse than a two year old and refuse contact for varying lengths of time. Such ridiculous behavior. I went full no contact over three years ago- just couldn't put up with the behaviors anymore. They always want you to pamper, pet and soothe them and apologize for "what you did wrong" when, in fact, you haven't done anything wrong at all. It's attention seeking behavior on steroids as well as a way of putting themselves on a pedestal and worshipping themselves as the center of the universe. They have to feel they're supremely important or they can't stand it. At the same time as all this is going on, they'll be demonizing you to everyone they know and complaining about what an asshole you are while spewing their twisted stories of how they've been done wrong and victimized. They're just "morally outraged" by your behavior! That's done to gain sympathy from others while simultaneously promoting themselves as a morally superior person who's better than you. They would NEVER act that way or do anyone like you did them!
The silence led me to silently plan my escape. He was horrible to me so when I left I was shocked he begged me to stay. He was shocked I was leaving because I never spoke of it to anyone. Moved into a security building across from a fire department.
Omg I went through all this and dated the narcissist while i turned my back on my acquaintance thinking she was the crazy one like he said she was and he was going on and on about her flying monkeys and her smear cat and I never knew any of these words or what they meant. I continued to believe him til I finally got it that I was bring strung along and now I’m getting his lies and manipulation sand he’s changing facts around about a situation between us! I am thankful we don’t have mutual friends. I feel sorry for my friend that I unfriended on fb early on. He even said he’s the victim to me urgh
So true, moving on taking care of the many good people your life, working, studying, living responsibly and documenting is the way forward. Focus on the good because you can't control anything about the covert narc's smear campaign, manipulation or fan club. Just walk away and invest your energy in valuing good people and doing good yourself. Action, not empty words.
My narc mother made me believe that I am "mentally sick", whatever she actually meant by that. Thus, for over 20 years of my life (I'm thirty now so it's the very most of my life in fact) I did not even realize that I was being abused and manipulated. Mother used that "mentall illness" strategy to control every single aspect of my life. From the early childhood I've been constantly threatened by her that she'll send me to a psychiatric if I only happen to do sth "wrong"... And in 2017 she actually fulfilled her threats and sent me there for over half a year so I was forced to undergo a hospitalization I did not even ask for. Now I'd be happy to move out at last, but I still cannot afford my own home so i have to share my living space with two evil monsters because my brother is a narcissist as well. Fortunately, "no contact" works fine so far, I've already learned how to ignore them and finally something good happens in my life :)
BTW, never tell a narc who they actually are - it's pointless and most likely they're gonna gaslight you!
This is so good and I wish I found this video like 3/4 months ago. I told my ex narc that maybe he is a narc, wanting to help and now he calls me the narc. He did admit to having some narc characteristics which was surprising. I am pregnant with his child. I changed my number and haven’t responded to emails in almost 2 months. I’m working on finding a lawyer to tell me what to do. I fear for the well being of this baby and myself. I wish I would have ran. The codependent/narc relationship is a match made in hell but I’m hoping this helps me to finally heal the root cause of my codependent problem and stand in my true power.
This guy sounds demonic reminds me of my x u know my x used to this shit his hoebag mother used to do this shit too they r sick evil childish mentally n on every level they will try to turn ur kid on u they r evil maggets
didn't let my x near my friends ...nope you have yours and I have mine ...if they came together time for me to get busy go to work... company has to go luv yas back to work...leaving him standing there alone...hahahahaa
Exactly what my ex-husband training in Psychiatry as a doctor in Somerset until 2012/2013 did to me and he also had psychopath characteristics. How he tortured me and my family. Solicitor based in Holborn only focussed on getting her Legal Aid award and did not put any real effort in my case and kept postponing court appearances despite my family coming to my aid in the UK and providing all documents, evidence including pictures and call recordings. She did not even use the contact details of those in the police requesting for reports from them. There was complete lack of transparency and very poor service and help we got from her. The barrister from East London then befriended my ex's solicitor based in East London to establish network for his future work during the interval of the court hearing. We are still struggling to recover from the damage caused and heal. I often wonder when will God take revenge for the injustice we faced and suffered in the UK because of these insincere people and my ex-husband and his family? When will my family and I be allowed to witness God's revenge on all these unjust people who took advantage of us, harmed and scarred us for life and exploited us at our most vulnerable stage in life.
If a Narrastic men think the pull the silent treatment. Think women cant leave without them. Lol.
A narrastic man pretend to be the victim. When really the narrastic man is cyberbully and abusive.The man behind the mask who like druma. The narrastic man the twist things around. How evil cruel action a narrastic man is and his flying monkeys.
They are unkind people there fake people. Think there perfect.
The narrastic man is a really a Whinny baby. Narrastic man has more then once personality crazy man. Who manupitior. Tell lies about women.Who causes abusive relationship to many women.
Best salutation is get fuck out that relationship or friendship live life with a toxic man. better off without these type of posers there differently not mj that for sure there narrastic men posers because mj would have never treated any one this way because the real mj was everything the narrastic men aren't. type of men hangout on dating sites or chat rooms. They hate they women. There craz joker clowns twoface mean demon men. It's as of Satan is in them. Narrastic man is a wolf in sheep cloths.
Wow! So many victims of narcissists. Sure it’s not the other way around? Lol. I know a lot of ppl who are manipulative but hide it from themselves and others by putting labels on others. So unChristian.
Kind of a complicated question.
If you realize that someone's been manipulated by a narcissist to hate/ harass you, how do you handle the person in between, especially when they're still allowing themselves to be manipulated and you can't cut them off completely?
What if you were married with them for 27 years and have a child with them how do you deal with this because I've never heard anybody talk about being married to a narcissist and having children with a narcissist all these videos are on what to do with a narcissist or not to do with a narcissist
How do I determine if a formerly close friend is narcissistic, or has borderline personality disorder? The mind bending techniques they appear to be using are very similar. Just wondering if there is any insight on this.
Hello, I'm in a relationship with a narcissist for almost 2 years, she's my friend at first I didn't know she was like that and we were going to open a business together, but now I'm not sure anymore. I don't have time for my husband anymore, not to talk to my sons or my grandkids anymore. I'm feeling that my husband is not the same anymore. But because I don't want to hurt my friend I'm hurting myself and my life I caught myself lying so much because I'm start to getting emotionally sick and I don't know what to do anymore I can only see myself dipper and dipper into a life drama and accusations of I did that I don't remember doing it and I think I never did what my friend is accusing me. Anyways I don't know what to do anymore I'm just very very tired of this situation !!!
This was excellent. I experienced all of this is my two year relationship with a narcissist. Whenever I hesitated in the relationship he called ME a narcissist and when I left I experienced a horrible smear campaign. I was absolutely shocked that someone I had loved would deliberately want to hurt me in this way. It’s taken about a year to get my self esteem back, the weirdest part about the whole thing is how attracted I was to this person and how much I have missed them. It has taken enormous inner strength and KNOWING that this person is controlling and abusive and that I must stay away, to maintain my self preservation. Hardest experience ever! Thank you for explaining it, I feel less crazy!
Thank you for all this information. You are so on point. I deal with a co-worker and the manager of the dept. They go to the extreme to cause problems and make everyone miserable. They are jealous of everything and everyone that takes the limelight off of them. I have learned to walk away when I see them coming. it's a waste of valuable time trying to reason with them. Also dealt with a deceased ex. And when I watched your videos it was like reliving 10 years. I can at least pass this information on. It is so helpful and educational to those who have no clue, feel helpless and need to take back their power. Thank you again.
Lost all my so called friends thanks to his lies about me! He left me for some whore -yet told everyone he couldn’t tolerate my affairs!!!!!
3 years later I’m still single, took me 2 years to learn how to be me again. And come to terms with his abusive treatment towards me.
At least I know who my true friends are all 2 of them who didn’t believe the lies he told about me!
I wish I'd known about narcissism years ago I was married to one and their moods change constantly... Every week something different and I'm glad I'm free of it now finally free I feel like a human being now thank you for this wonderful information
My ex girlfriend showed so many narcissistic tendencies and I ran like crazy. Blocked her from my life completely (apologized because I felt bad at first so she tried to play the victim lol so I no longer felt as bad) anyway, I felt like you were describing her at her very core and it damn near brought me to tears because I just finally felt understood. Thank you.
I love your vids you have some what helped me out alot but I really need a lil more advice in my situation. This has been a 20 year fight an I always to seem to find my way back. I mean I fill at times as if I owe her because 5 years back I was an addict however now been clean for 5 years 💪 I just can't seem to just up an leave without gilt.an not to mention I hear" yea leave us like you left your other kids!! I'm just so confused! I know this is not love unless its all about her as well we are raising a 16 year old daughter an I have noticed she buys my little girl. And the back end makes her seem to do no wrong I have tried too talk to my kids but seems that they look at me crazy.all I'm asking is for a little more advice.I'm so lost an confused.please help THANKS BE BLESSED!!
I hate the actions of those who turn away from God; I will have nothing to do with them. I will not be dishonest and will have no dealings with evil. I will get rid of anyone who whispers evil things about someone else; I will not tolerate anyone who is proud and arrogant. I will approve of those who are faithful to God and will let them live in my palace. Those who are completely honest will be allowed to serve me. No liar will live in my palace; no hypocrite will remain in my presence.
IVE BEEN LIVING MY LIFE AND HE GETS MAD AND SAYS EVER SIBCE YOU'VE HAD THAT PHONE YOU'VE CHANGED .....YEAH YOU CANT INTIMIDATE ME ANYMORE....THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR THIS INFORMATION I REALLY APPRECIATE IT
I hate my school because I am mentally handicapped so all my reactions are more extreme so I had to build up my immunity by becoming dead inside so they have started to try and make me feel like I’m going crazy to get a reaction but they don’t know how much I know and who does what to try and get a reaction for who
•constantly ruins my stuff
•constantly steals my stuff
•constantly “accidentally” me and throw random stuff
•who tries to make me feel like everybody hates me
They are all a**holes and I only let it out here because it will get hidden in similar comments, also my life feels like it’s not in 1st person but 3rd person
It's amazing because going through the experience of being with a narcissist for 3 years caused me to look at my own behavior and realize that when I was 14-17 years old I used to be somewhat narcissistic after being abused by my parents like you couldn't tell me NOTHING without me going off on you and my anxiety was so bad that if little kids were playing and being too loud I would get so irritated and snappy. This makes me sad knowing how my own narcissist behavior actually hurt my little brother and my sister just because I was going through my own hurt and I feel like subconsciously I was not aware of how much a narcissist I was and it makes me want to be more understanding of my ex narcissistic boyfriend and take him back because maybe he is going through something.. :,(
Be very aware of all the energies going in and out. And when u talk with someone, watch them, don´t spend time on their emotions or life. U have your own duty to furfill. You can actually have a normal conversation with a narc. Just focus on yourself, and what u want to say. When he/she is talking, only observe and if u are getting tired or something observing 'm, just look away and do not let him/her get the attention back on him. Focus on your own feelings. If u have a weakness a narc will abuse it, and if u fix it, u are stronger than before. The moment u barely have a weakness, they will highlikely just discard you and move on, furfilling their own duty(they only aren't that conscious bout that, ithink)
Please, please, please could you do a video on how to come out of enmeshment, this terrifies me, i think i kind of know when im in it, i feel as though i am narcissistic myself while in it, as though i enter a twilight zone, its as though i have their thoughts and feelings in me if that makes sense, i would be very grateful for anyones advice on this, thankyou xxx
Child marriages are common:
On a recent day, eight community elders sat in a [refugee] camp, some chewing khat, the narcotic leaf favored by most Yemeni men. Seven have married off their girls this year.
Even Salim, the elder who worked at the charity, is preparing to marry off his two daughters, ages 13 and 14. "I want to feel secure of their futures, if only for economic reasons," he said.
Mohammad Ali al-Ansi married off his two girls, ages 13 and 14, in April. "My heart is bleeding inside, but I was forced to do this," he said. "I have no job. Its difficult for me to feed my 10 children." He received $1,600 in dowry for each of his girls, he said. But after paying for their weddings and meeting other debts, the money has nearly run out. "If things get worse, theres no doubt Ill marry off my 12-year-old daughter," Ansi said.
More on Ansis 14-year-old daughter Fatma, married to 21-year-old Zaid:
Fatma spent her day cooking and washing clothes for her in-laws. When asked the name of her husbands family, Fatma didnt know it. She remembers her father telling her and her sister, Amal, that the family needed money. She remembers that Amal was in tears because her new husband was taking her to another region. The two sisters have not seen each other since their weddings.
"I am too young to be married," Fatma said. "I want to study. I want to learn how to write. I have sacrificed for my family," she continued, her voice dropping to a whisper.
Minutes later, her husband arrived at the tent, and Fatma went silent. He said Fatma was "at a good age to marry." When asked if she could attend school, he shook his head no. "Shes a little too old for school," he said.
Female sexual freedom among the Tuareg : Flora Drury has written up the sex habits of the Saharas Muslim Tuareg people based on the work by Henrietta Butler. Some excerpts:
Their men became known as the blue men of the Sahara because the dye from their distinctive indigo scarves rub off onto their faces giving them a mysterious air. The Tuareg evoke images of a long forgotten and romantic age.