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There is a lot of information available on the internet regarding narcissistic abuse, narcissistic abuse victim syndrome, healing Cptsd due to emotional abuse and overcoming the abuse inflicted by narcissistic parents; however, having someone guide and mentor you on your healing journey can be so helpful. If you feel you can benefit from inviting someone on your healing journey, please check out these links for face to face coaching and/or phone coaching: https://payhip.com/b/whkV https://payhip.com/b/uGNB For those interested in an interactive self-help journal, here is the link for the PDF entitled I Miss Me and I Want Me Back https://payhip.com/b/HD4v Michele is someone that has truly been there; after surviving 31 years of narcissistic abuse by family members and significant others, she now dedicates her time and energy toward helping others as a Trauma Recovery Coach and soon to be a Certified Kinesiology Practitioner to help others that are still on their road to recovery. For those that are going to court against a narcissist, the PDF entitled When The Devils The Defendant has been a helpful tool for thousands- https://payhip.com/b/Kl21 Dating Harley Quinn – Female Histrionic Narcissist is NOW AVAILABLE – https://payhip.com/b/a31b A male target of narcissistic abuse asked me if I would be interested in ghost writing his memoir and after hearing his story I was hooked. It’s one thing to hear about what narcissistic abuse is, to learn about triangulation, blame shifting, projection, narcissistic supply, gaslighting and so many other terms and manipulation tactics we come to learn about on our journey to heal from narcissistic abuse. But it’s another story to delve into the life of someone trapped in a trauma bond by a female histrionic narcissist. This memoir, written in novel form, takes you on the roller coaster ride of highs and lows that are typical in emotionally abusive relationships. Here is a brief description of the book, a link is found below. This memoir opens the door to what my life was like dating a female histrionic narcissist. The beginning of the relationship was surreal - if ever I had fantasized about what the perfect girl would be - it paled in comparison to what Angel was truly like and how she enhanced my life. If I were to compare her to anyone I had ever dated - it would not be fair; it would be like comparing a painting done with finger paints hanging on a refrigerator door, held up with a magnet, to Michelangelo's art scenes from Genesis painted on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel in Rome. The feeling Angel gave was a perfect purity of manifested perfection. I quite literally could not imagen a girl more totally perfect, my imagination was stretched just to take in the reality of her. She took me in every way she possibly could to the heights beyond the tops of Mt. Everest in sensual and hedonistic pleasure. She brought me to the edge of the stratosphere where the air is so thin you have to wear a space suit - but the view - the view is all humanity stretched out before you and you can see the curvature of the earth and the blackness of space. And then she dropped me. While reading this story there are no definitions spelled out as to narcissistic abuse, nor what histrionics are like, rather a picture is painted before your eyes. You will see the idealization phase, notice the cycle of highs and lows that are signature to emotionally abusive relationships, you will watch in horror as the trauma bonds can cause a person to make the worst, self-destructive decisions possible. I'm inviting you to bear witness to my journey. What looked so innocent and enticing quickly turned into a covert poison that cost me a million-dollar business, my health, provoked a suicide attempt and left me homeless and suffering brain damage. This is my story. It's not meant to entice sympathy, rather it's a wake- up call for anyone that is in a relationship with someone narcissistic, sociopathic, histrionic or a cocktail of mixed cluster b disorders. https://payhip.com/b/a31b
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mary girardin (23 hours ago)
We never had mutual friends. He always told me he had no friends, just drug dealers and whores...what he did do was try to turn me into one of them, which didn’t work. After the discard is when I found out how many friends he really had and sent them after me to stalk and abuse me for years...
Johanna León (2 days ago)
Sorry but I don't believe that
Madd Rabbit Stew (2 days ago)
Women are masters of the silent treatment.
Rebirth (2 days ago)
Omg I love the visual/sound effects. Needed that laugh.
Saantje El B (3 days ago)
Im living with one under one roof. He is the father of My daughter!:(
Jennifer R. (3 days ago)
so...if the ex is sneaking around requesting private meetings with the child's teacher in order to say who knows what, I'm to ignore it?
Katherine Tarrant (4 days ago)
I was with one when somebody laughs and enjoy their own so called friend crying it’s really weird fr l
Rose Sables (4 days ago)
From my experience the 1st type narcissist just escalates the smear campaign and openly targets you. The best is to just walk away; get out of the environment BEFORE your own thought patterns turn negative.
Ron W (5 days ago)
Narcs love to play the victim and will twist every story of anything that's happened in order to play the holy, sacred martyr hanging upon a cross whose been done oh so wrong by you. They'll look for any excuse (no matter how tiny) in order to use it as a launchpad to show their butt over it. Then they like to promote themselves as a superior person "who would never act that way or treat someone like you treated them!" Everything about them is fake, phony and plastic as well as twisted and warped. The one I knew was always acting the part of the disrespected, mistreated angel who had every right to be offended by something I did and would then sulk worse than a two year old and refuse contact for varying lengths of time. Such ridiculous behavior. I went full no contact over three years ago- just couldn't put up with the behaviors anymore. They always want you to pamper, pet and soothe them and apologize for "what you did wrong" when, in fact, you haven't done anything wrong at all. It's attention seeking behavior on steroids as well as a way of putting themselves on a pedestal and worshipping themselves as the center of the universe. They have to feel they're supremely important or they can't stand it. At the same time as all this is going on, they'll be demonizing you to everyone they know and complaining about what an asshole you are while spewing their twisted stories of how they've been done wrong and victimized. They're just "morally outraged" by your behavior! That's done to gain sympathy from others while simultaneously promoting themselves as a morally superior person who's better than you. They would NEVER act that way or do anyone like you did them!
Therese Ward (5 days ago)
The silence led me to silently plan my escape. He was horrible to me so when I left I was shocked he begged me to stay. He was shocked I was leaving because I never spoke of it to anyone. Moved into a security building across from a fire department.
PFP Billtown (7 days ago)
Oh my gosh, I have often wondered if I were in fact the narcissist!!!! Thank you so much for sharing this info.
Anthony (7 days ago)
These people are extremely dangerous. They are violators of human dignity and freedom. They must be punished for their covert crimes against us all.
mrs C (8 days ago)
Sounds like my husband His fuckin horrible person he cheated on me having sex with other women I really hate him !😡
Cheryl Fieldes (8 days ago)
Omg I went through all this and dated the narcissist while i turned my back on my acquaintance thinking she was the crazy one like he said she was and he was going on and on about her flying monkeys and her smear cat and I never knew any of these words or what they meant. I continued to believe him til I finally got it that I was bring strung along and now I’m getting his lies and manipulation sand he’s changing facts around about a situation between us! I am thankful we don’t have mutual friends. I feel sorry for my friend that I unfriended on fb early on. He even said he’s the victim to me urgh
BeastBeatsNy (9 days ago)
Smh @ Narc parents and the rest of family members who are raised this way also once you bring it to light THEY ALL GO AGANST YOU. Life is Beautiful with or without THEM. GOD IS THE GREATEST
Ranoosh Db (9 days ago)
Hard to keep this a secret when they stalk you online by hacking your internet
Frances Lockhart (10 days ago)
So true, moving on taking care of the many good people your life, working, studying, living responsibly and documenting is the way forward. Focus on the good because you can't control anything about the covert narc's smear campaign, manipulation or fan club. Just walk away and invest your energy in valuing good people and doing good yourself. Action, not empty words.
Gabriel Reall (10 days ago)
Thank you. 1 milion times
Sabena Gill (11 days ago)
Find the covert narcissist's weakness (balding, breath, fat, etc.) and embarrass the shit out of them in public. This is chess, not checkers.
Tomasz Chlebiński (12 days ago)
My narc mother made me believe that I am "mentally sick", whatever she actually meant by that. Thus, for over 20 years of my life (I'm thirty now so it's the very most of my life in fact) I did not even realize that I was being abused and manipulated. Mother used that "mentall illness" strategy to control every single aspect of my life. From the early childhood I've been constantly threatened by her that she'll send me to a psychiatric if I only happen to do sth "wrong"... And in 2017 she actually fulfilled her threats and sent me there for over half a year so I was forced to undergo a hospitalization I did not even ask for. Now I'd be happy to move out at last, but I still cannot afford my own home so i have to share my living space with two evil monsters because my brother is a narcissist as well. Fortunately, "no contact" works fine so far, I've already learned how to ignore them and finally something good happens in my life :) BTW, never tell a narc who they actually are - it's pointless and most likely they're gonna gaslight you!
Gentle Eve (13 days ago)
This is so good and I wish I found this video like 3/4 months ago. I told my ex narc that maybe he is a narc, wanting to help and now he calls me the narc. He did admit to having some narc characteristics which was surprising. I am pregnant with his child. I changed my number and haven’t responded to emails in almost 2 months. I’m working on finding a lawyer to tell me what to do. I fear for the well being of this baby and myself. I wish I would have ran. The codependent/narc relationship is a match made in hell but I’m hoping this helps me to finally heal the root cause of my codependent problem and stand in my true power.
Teresa Fogerty (13 days ago)
Why is this listed under the d comedy category?
Mary Motherofgod (14 days ago)
This guy sounds demonic reminds me of my x u know my x used to this shit his hoebag mother used to do this shit too they r sick evil childish mentally n on every level they will try to turn ur kid on u they r evil maggets
Mary Motherofgod (14 days ago)
Secret one compulsive liar secret 2 has fake phone number secret 3 has a harem of women and is on over 10 websites
Taylor Presley (14 days ago)
I'm sick and tired of narcs screwing me over, no more turning the other cheek, I'm going for revenge. Fed up
didn't let my x near my friends ...nope you have yours and I have mine ...if they came together time for me to get busy go to work... company has to go luv yas back to work...leaving him standing there alone...hahahahaa
Monica Nath (14 days ago)
This is a terrible disease! I wish I could help those who suffer from this!
Still Shining (15 days ago)
Wow
Kim Stone (15 days ago)
I'm with a Narcissist's and am one myself, and we both love the rush. I am good in won't i do and I love it, because I like seen other ppl suffer at my expense 😂😂
Spencer Kennedy (15 days ago)
All I can say is god is good I'm hoping my narcissist comes back I'm gonna play dumb and play his ass like a fiddle
Uni Versity (17 days ago)
Exactly what my ex-husband training in Psychiatry as a doctor in Somerset until 2012/2013 did to me and he also had psychopath characteristics. How he tortured me and my family. Solicitor based in Holborn only focussed on getting her Legal Aid award and did not put any real effort in my case and kept postponing court appearances despite my family coming to my aid in the UK and providing all documents, evidence including pictures and call recordings. She did not even use the contact details of those in the police requesting for reports from them. There was complete lack of transparency and very poor service and help we got from her. The barrister from East London then befriended my ex's solicitor based in East London to establish network for his future work during the interval of the court hearing. We are still struggling to recover from the damage caused and heal. I often wonder when will God take revenge for the injustice we faced and suffered in the UK because of these insincere people and my ex-husband and his family? When will my family and I be allowed to witness God's revenge on all these unjust people who took advantage of us, harmed and scarred us for life and exploited us at our most vulnerable stage in life.
Katie Diaz VonJohl (17 days ago)
Fuck
Lily Val (17 days ago)
He shows himself how he is though. So don't get it. Yeah plays victim, when he swears not. Yeah loves to be admired.
Lily Val (17 days ago)
So good. Found perfect time when hurting, cuz him. I am speaking of him. Is true. Should not speak of him.
Elsa Romero Herrera (17 days ago)
The silent treatment is mental masturbation to them......
Jet1 (18 days ago)
Thanks for the info, I'm learning SHHH :) all about this and it's not too late.
Karlo Peternel (21 days ago)
I just don't give a shit about them, I just take care of myself first n I play my tennis n spend time with my real friends 😁
Karlo Peternel (21 days ago)
So useful, great quality video, merci
Karlo Peternel (21 days ago)
Woooooow, thank you, excellent video
Karlo Peternel (21 days ago)
Woooooow, thank you, excellent video
All Good (21 days ago)
Please fix the audio
maria mistretta (21 days ago)
The best thing I ever did for myself was walk away from these type of people. I got freedom even if they try to drag me back to turn like them I'm like no I will not.
maria mistretta (21 days ago)
@ women: If a Narrastic men think the pull the silent treatment. Think women cant leave without them. Lol. A narrastic man pretend to be the victim. When really the narrastic man is cyberbully and abusive.The man behind the mask who like druma. The narrastic man the twist things around. How evil cruel action a narrastic man is and his flying monkeys. They are unkind people there fake people. Think there perfect. The narrastic man is a really a Whinny baby. Narrastic man has more then once personality crazy man. Who manupitior. Tell lies about women.Who causes abusive relationship to many women. Best salutation is get fuck out that relationship or friendship live life with a toxic man. better off without these type of posers there differently not mj that for sure there narrastic men posers because mj would have never treated any one this way because the real mj was everything the narrastic men aren't. type of men hangout on dating sites or chat rooms. They hate they women. There craz joker clowns twoface mean demon men. It's as of Satan is in them. Narrastic man is a wolf in sheep cloths.
Neil 72 (21 days ago)
Female narcissists are way worse..
0000 H (21 days ago)
I know one! Scary if you dont know how to handle them. Ignore them..then ignore them more!
Bindmatee Ramsingh (22 days ago)
Wow! So many victims of narcissists. Sure it’s not the other way around? Lol. I know a lot of ppl who are manipulative but hide it from themselves and others by putting labels on others. So unChristian.
Fuck keeping Narcissistic abuse to myself & fuck who ever doesn't believe me & sides with the narc!!!
felicia lord (22 days ago)
Right on. ....💯
Rodlin Von-Hugenstine (22 days ago)
This homo
Crimson Hawk (23 days ago)
My narc loved to spend money and would blame me for her spending. "This is why we cant move in togethere because i have to pay for you"
Gentle Eve (13 days ago)
Crimson Hawk so messed up. My ex narc blamed me for how much he gave to me too. It’s such a mind f- :( “I loved you and gave So much to you and you just left me for no reason”. Scary
Tee Keller (23 days ago)
What about a narcissist who's a rapist?
Charli Barraza (24 days ago)
Kind of a complicated question. If you realize that someone's been manipulated by a narcissist to hate/ harass you, how do you handle the person in between, especially when they're still allowing themselves to be manipulated and you can't cut them off completely?
Yvonne Errend (24 days ago)
What if you were married with them for 27 years and have a child with them how do you deal with this because I've never heard anybody talk about being married to a narcissist and having children with a narcissist all these videos are on what to do with a narcissist or not to do with a narcissist
Scarecrow music5 (25 days ago)
I can’t believe 300 people gave this video a thumbs down. What the hell do they disagree with ? !
Brain Fucker (25 days ago)
I am no more accommodative to any one.
Ms Writer (25 days ago)
The voice is so creepy
Triangular Colander (25 days ago)
How do I determine if a formerly close friend is narcissistic, or has borderline personality disorder? The mind bending techniques they appear to be using are very similar. Just wondering if there is any insight on this.
Nanci Matelis (27 days ago)
Hello, I'm in a relationship with a narcissist for almost 2 years, she's my friend at first I didn't know she was like that and we were going to open a business together, but now I'm not sure anymore. I don't have time for my husband anymore, not to talk to my sons or my grandkids anymore. I'm feeling that my husband is not the same anymore. But because I don't want to hurt my friend I'm hurting myself and my life I caught myself lying so much because I'm start to getting emotionally sick and I don't know what to do anymore I can only see myself dipper and dipper into a life drama and accusations of I did that I don't remember doing it and I think I never did what my friend is accusing me. Anyways I don't know what to do anymore I'm just very very tired of this situation !!!
M Atkins (27 days ago)
The only thing I can't agree with is... I can't assume what a person is thinking.. Only can see actions
Tracey Hall (27 days ago)
Those people can [email protected] themselves. If people want to side with a narc they can have them. Trash people.
Pamela Martin (27 days ago)
This was excellent. I experienced all of this is my two year relationship with a narcissist. Whenever I hesitated in the relationship he called ME a narcissist and when I left I experienced a horrible smear campaign. I was absolutely shocked that someone I had loved would deliberately want to hurt me in this way. It’s taken about a year to get my self esteem back, the weirdest part about the whole thing is how attracted I was to this person and how much I have missed them. It has taken enormous inner strength and KNOWING that this person is controlling and abusive and that I must stay away, to maintain my self preservation. Hardest experience ever! Thank you for explaining it, I feel less crazy!
Queena Pilar (28 days ago)
Thank you for all this information. You are so on point. I deal with a co-worker and the manager of the dept. They go to the extreme to cause problems and make everyone miserable. They are jealous of everything and everyone that takes the limelight off of them. I have learned to walk away when I see them coming. it's a waste of valuable time trying to reason with them. Also dealt with a deceased ex. And when I watched your videos it was like reliving 10 years. I can at least pass this information on. It is so helpful and educational to those who have no clue, feel helpless and need to take back their power. Thank you again.
angela75794 (29 days ago)
💯
S Fought (29 days ago)
Dont confront them. Their RAGE is dangerous. Just leave.
Dorothy Kitzinger (30 days ago)
Thee best!!
Megan Godfrey (30 days ago)
Lost all my so called friends thanks to his lies about me! He left me for some whore -yet told everyone he couldn’t tolerate my affairs!!!!! 3 years later I’m still single, took me 2 years to learn how to be me again. And come to terms with his abusive treatment towards me. At least I know who my true friends are all 2 of them who didn’t believe the lies he told about me!
Shawn Thornton (30 days ago)
Wow that is crazy. Thanks
Mandy Blue Eyes (30 days ago)
Narcissists think they can talk you into, and themselves out of, anything. They think people who ignore agree with them, when really they just don't want to "throw their pearls before swine".
Gabrielle Budd (30 days ago)
I wish I'd known about narcissism years ago I was married to one and their moods change constantly... Every week something different and I'm glad I'm free of it now finally free I feel like a human being now thank you for this wonderful information
None of Your business (1 month ago)
My ex girlfriend showed so many narcissistic tendencies and I ran like crazy. Blocked her from my life completely (apologized because I felt bad at first so she tried to play the victim lol so I no longer felt as bad) anyway, I felt like you were describing her at her very core and it damn near brought me to tears because I just finally felt understood. Thank you.
BanjoDow (1 month ago)
Not enough ads. Good info though
You can and will never win against a Narcissist. You can not get one up or hurt them they are three steps ahead and have no empathy similar to a serial killer. They act with impunity.
Women are Narcissists as well men go through this I have suffered. Info correct 100% sexist attitude 100% wrong
Lisa Vollaro (1 month ago)
Sick individuals I'm dealing with one that's sick individuals
E S (1 month ago)
There is no communicating, no comprise. Its their way or the highway, and yes nothing is EVER their fault.
Santana Lovely (1 month ago)
I love your vids you have some what helped me out alot but I really need a lil more advice in my situation. This has been a 20 year fight an I always to seem to find my way back. I mean I fill at times as if I owe her because 5 years back I was an addict however now been clean for 5 years 💪 I just can't seem to just up an leave without gilt.an not to mention I hear" yea leave us like you left your other kids!! I'm just so confused! I know this is not love unless its all about her as well we are raising a 16 year old daughter an I have noticed she buys my little girl. And the back end makes her seem to do no wrong I have tried too talk to my kids but seems that they look at me crazy.all I'm asking is for a little more advice.I'm so lost an confused.please help THANKS BE BLESSED!!
Julio Hernandez (1 month ago)
10 +
Rachel Lee (1 month ago)
To their core...... They wicked as fuck!!!!!! They do anything they want. Its just right.
Zsquita Gillespie (1 month ago)
All along mf been making me feel like im the fucking problem
Zsquita Gillespie (1 month ago)
I should have saw this 4years ago now i can't get rid of his ass
Süpreme Novah (1 month ago)
I hate the actions of those who turn away from God; I will have nothing to do with them. I will not be dishonest and will have no dealings with evil. I will get rid of anyone who whispers evil things about someone else; I will not tolerate anyone who is proud and arrogant. I will approve of those who are faithful to God and will let them live in my palace. Those who are completely honest will be allowed to serve me. No liar will live in my palace; no hypocrite will remain in my presence. Psalms 101:3-7
melissa marshall (1 month ago)
Why are we treating them as the devil?isn't this a mental illness? Should we not be helping them
Pp Pp (1 month ago)
beautiful words but I can't view the video there are to many advertising on YouTube
euniceitsme jj (1 month ago)
They need Christ
Sherry Michaels (1 month ago)
Yeah i was told by one tbat if i dont make him happy he will find someone else. Yup thats what slipped. Out of his audacious mouth.
Val Robinson (1 month ago)
IVE BEEN LIVING MY LIFE AND HE GETS MAD AND SAYS EVER SIBCE YOU'VE HAD THAT PHONE YOU'VE CHANGED .....YEAH YOU CANT INTIMIDATE ME ANYMORE....THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR THIS INFORMATION I REALLY APPRECIATE IT
Malia Jade (1 month ago)
wow. Mind-blowing. Went through all of this with my ex-narcopath. He is a covert narcissist, but switches between covert and malignant. He knew he was abusive all along. Sick.
Marc Mcclinchy (1 month ago)
How can a narcissist fix himself?
RedPanda Boss (1 month ago)
I hate my school because I am mentally handicapped so all my reactions are more extreme so I had to build up my immunity by becoming dead inside so they have started to try and make me feel like I’m going crazy to get a reaction but they don’t know how much I know and who does what to try and get a reaction for who •constantly ruins my stuff •constantly steals my stuff •constantly “accidentally” me and throw random stuff •who tries to make me feel like everybody hates me They are all a**holes and I only let it out here because it will get hidden in similar comments, also my life feels like it’s not in 1st person but 3rd person
Sevi Regis (1 month ago)
Most narcs accuse their partner of being the narc, this is how they try to hide, through deflection.
Krystal Anderson (1 month ago)
You're so cool. Im serious.
Leticia Bankston (1 month ago)
Wow! Know people like that!
Amelia Flanagan (1 month ago)
This is some DEMONIC crap if I've ever heard it!!!!! #uareworthmore
CriticalListener (1 month ago)
If this doesn't describe our current president, I don't know what does...
Frankie Marquez (1 month ago)
I think my cat is narcissist
Queen Anniyah (1 month ago)
It's amazing because going through the experience of being with a narcissist for 3 years caused me to look at my own behavior and realize that when I was 14-17 years old I used to be somewhat narcissistic after being abused by my parents like you couldn't tell me NOTHING without me going off on you and my anxiety was so bad that if little kids were playing and being too loud I would get so irritated and snappy. This makes me sad knowing how my own narcissist behavior actually hurt my little brother and my sister just because I was going through my own hurt and I feel like subconsciously I was not aware of how much a narcissist I was and it makes me want to be more understanding of my ex narcissistic boyfriend and take him back because maybe he is going through something.. :,(
JaHaha (1 month ago)
Be very aware of all the energies going in and out. And when u talk with someone, watch them, don´t spend time on their emotions or life. U have your own duty to furfill. You can actually have a normal conversation with a narc. Just focus on yourself, and what u want to say. When he/she is talking, only observe and if u are getting tired or something observing 'm, just look away and do not let him/her get the attention back on him. Focus on your own feelings. If u have a weakness a narc will abuse it, and if u fix it, u are stronger than before. The moment u barely have a weakness, they will highlikely just discard you and move on, furfilling their own duty(they only aren't that conscious bout that, ithink)
Delisa Hale (1 month ago)
Codependant
Peter Muise (1 month ago)
Just get away from the narcissist or feed it to the hogs!
Michelle Rennie (1 month ago)
Please, please, please could you do a video on how to come out of enmeshment, this terrifies me, i think i kind of know when im in it, i feel as though i am narcissistic myself while in it, as though i enter a twilight zone, its as though i have their thoughts and feelings in me if that makes sense, i would be very grateful for anyones advice on this, thankyou xxx

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